Have you ever felt lost in life too? like something’s anchoring you from reaching your goals? It’s frustrating, negativity and self-pity will be all over the place.
Idle moments in life where I don’t have any idea how my day would go. I have no daily, weekly, nor even yearly plans for my life. I had identified myself as a bummer and thought that I’d live like this forever. I do have a goal in life; be a great doctor that will inspire people to do good things while they live.
Too ambitious for a sloth, isn’t it? Unfortunately. I experienced some heartbreaks in life — whether it’s from broken relationships, friendships, or even lack of self-care — before I get to realize that wow I’m living an awful one. I thought I was doing well with life and I’ve got it all under control. But thank God, I woke up from that belief.
In the famous book The Courage to be Disliked, the author said “We are not determined by our past experiences, but the meaning we give them is self-determining. […] Your life is not something that someone gives you, but something you choose yourself, and you are the one who decides how you live.”
I’ve accepted that I was not enough, that I wanted to change, and this was not what I want to be doing for the rest of my life. I need to be doing something now that will benefit my future self. I have to stop thinking that the world is revolving around me and I control every single soul in different galaxies. Oh believe me, I have no intention…
that you’ve got a miniature version of yourself standing on your shoulder, but he’s 5 years older. How would that person (5-years-older you) feel about how you’ve spent your time today? Would he be shaking his head? Or nodding in approval?
I’ve heard this from Khe Hy in Ali Abdaal’s livestream about Building a Productivity System in Notion.* I was amazed by the idea where you always ask for your own opinion from the future version of yourself.
It gets things done that way rather than saying to yourself “Ah, I should probably do this important task but let me just see one episode in netflix before anything else,” or “I’m just going refresh my feed one last time,” and end up 3 good hours scrolling and refreshing to see new notifications from your shared posts.
To be honest, I thought I was doing something good for myself. I was still going to school because I know I have to and it is for me to “reach my future goal.” I still pass some of my exams because I crammed for it.
So in reality, I’ve been doing nothing. I was stuck in that safe familiar place where everything should be easy for me. Everything would be alright so I don’t have to worry about it. The logic is true but my actions were ineffective. We don’t have to live in our comfort zones forever. We have to accept who we are and believe that we can change.
what could you be doing today in service of the vision you see for the miniature version of yourself. It doesn’t have to be the most life-changing thing you can think of but it’s not impossible!
Often it involves skills, learning, strategizing, or even creating things. This is the time where you reevaluate your interests and passions in life. Khe had mentioned that “it’s not crazy to do 25 minutes of work or something that would benefit you in 5 years every day.”
Think about it! Are you willing to change or you just don’t feel like it yet? I want to know your thoughts on this. Are you still lost? I pray that you realize that there are great things out there for us. All we have to do is rise and face every morning with hope and courage. Keep going.
*Notion is an all-around productivity app! (and my favorite) There’s a free version of it but the storage is limited so if you loved using Notion, you could upgrade your plan for $4/month. If you’d like to check it out, you can download it in your devices and sign up using this link. It gives you free $10 credits to get you started.
I recommend the book The Courage to be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga. The book inspired me to love myself more and accept that I can’t change other people around me. It is only I who can change myself and contribute to other people’s lives to be truly happy.
Thank you for reading until here. I appreciate you so much!